Posts tagged lgbtq
Posts tagged lgbtq
Sometimes I feel weird about identifying as a lesbian and then I hear about homophobic people and I just want to be loudly and obnoxiously homosexual all over the place.
Just watched a documentary about teens coerced into “ex-gay” programs.
I really just want to find all the sad lonely gay teenagers and hug them and bake things for them until they feel ok about themselves.
Watching a documentary with my housemate about a lesbian country musician who lived in the closet for years and years.
Simultaneously SO grateful that I’ve never had to go through that and so sad that it’s a thing that happens at all.
When I lived in Santa Cruz, California, I took acceptance for granted. I believed ignorantly that everyone was open-minded and tolerant. I just wasn’t exposed to the injustices of real, diverse society.
Seven years ago, when I was forced to complete middle and high school in Hays, Kansas, I…
Day of Silence was a big deal for me in high school. We technically weren’t allowed to promote it with flyers or anything - our school was only barely comfortable allowing our GSA to exist - but we met beforehand to make cards explaining what we were doing, and ribbons to pass out to people who supported us. Walking through the hall on Day of Silence meant a satisfying search for rainbow ribbons, subtly pinned to backpacks or jackets, that made those of us actually not talking all day feel supported.
My senior year, my participation sparked endless discussion on whether or not there was even any point to what I was doing. Everyone knew about the problems LGBT people faced, I was told. By silencing myself, I was only losing a chance to educate people. And besides, homophobic bullying wasn’t a problem at our school, anyway.
That part was true. But it was hard to explain to people just how it felt to walk down the hallway hand in hand with my girlfriend, both of us silent, communicating in hand squeezes and smiles, and to realize that so many people couldn’t do that. The simultaneous knowledge that I was so blessed to be safe, and that if I were somewhere else I wouldn’t be safe, made me feel like what I was doing was important, but I didn’t know how to articulate that in written responses that came so much more slowly than the people speaking’s objections.
It’s choking, to be silent all day. Your throat closes up. I had never really been in the closet; I have since, when I first traveled to Ireland, before I hooked up with the LGBT community there, and it was the same kind of feeling.
Today I won’t be silent, except for during our vigil. I don’t need to look for hidden rainbow ribbons anymore - half the school will be decked out in rainbow t-shirts. But my heart is with any high schoolers who are going through the day today silent against people telling them that what they’re doing isn’t worth it. It is, guys.
- a man can be femme if he damn well wants, regardless of his dsab
- a woman can be butch if she damn well wants, regardless of her dsab
- nonbinary folks can be as butch or femme as they damn well want, regardless of their dsab
Any person can:
- be butch
- be femme
Ignorant question time: What’s “dsab” stand for? I assume it’s similar to “sex assigned at birth”?
I’m not sure the extent to which this is me? But I admire it a lot. Is that allowed?
ugh this is so fucking cute
I have this one on a t-shirt.